My Life on Delay

“Life is a journey, not a destination” – Emerson

Like every epic journey, mine started with a first step. But this wasn’t a triumphant or confident first step like Kirk emploring Sulu to set maximum warp, or the Fellowship stepping out of Rivendell with full hearts and bellies (buckle up, the nerdery has just begun, folks!). No. This was a tiny but terrifying step onto a path filled with unknown anxieties, conflict, discovery, pain (good and bad…), heartache, love, and connection that this 40-year-old, vanilla, monogamous, married man living in the middle of America could never have imagined. 

Entering the world of ethical non-monogamy (ENM) and polyamory catapulted me toward an ongoing period of self-discovery unmatched in the annals of my life. It has expanded my understanding of what it means to love and care for another person and challenged my belief in what a “normal” or “healthy” relationship really looks like. It forced me to look hard at what I wanted out of life and who I was, leading me to become a better husband, father, partner, communicator, lover, and all-around human being.  

This blog will allow for a re-telling of the successes, failures, triumphs, and heartbreaks that have happened and will happen as my wife and I walk bravely along an unknown but thrilling path. It will be filled with lessons learned, conversations had, and experiences, both good and bad. The writing will be part catharsis and part help guide to anyone who might find themselves on a similar journey. This will be a place for growth, community, and friendship, and I hope you’ll join me as we bravely go where no man (in my house) has gone before. 

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